#Growing up without a father series#

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#Growing up without a father series#

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This is my reality of growing up without a father. That is why we are far from that ‘daddy issue’ stereotype. That’s why we all know we are the only ones who can protect ourselves. Who wouldn’t if you’ve experienced something like this? The only man that is supposed to protect you left, and only gives you empty excuses as to why. Yes, we have trouble trusting people when starting a relationship. Girls without fathers understand that they will never be with a man that treated them like their own father did. We see the red flags of a man before most people do. We’ve heard all the excuses, know all the games, witness all the false promises firsthand. Because we have seen the worst sides of men without being in a relationship. From having an absent father, our standards are set higher than most. We become mature and independent quicker than most people could even imagine. I know this from my personal experiences, and I’ve seen it firsthand from my friends who have gone through the same thing. Stereotypes are often far from being accurate. To help me grow as a person, but not do all the work. I’ve learned that the only reason I need a man in my life is to give me extra support. Because I know I am the only person responsible for my happiness and success. I’ve gone through the hardest parts of my life without leaning on a man to support me or make me feel better. I’ve learned that a man is not a necessity for happiness, just an accessory. Why? Because I have grown up happy, without a man in my life. I give the men I involve myself with one chance and one chance only. I know I will never get into a serious relationship with someone who lies to me or takes me for granted or treats me any less than I know I deserve. I’ve also grown up watching my mom and sister date some good, and not so good, guys. Yes, it may be nice to get married one day to a financially stable man, but I will make sure I am financially stable with or without him. I’ve grown up knowing I need to go to college and get a good degree, and find a career to make sure I am always financially stable on my own. Whether it be financially or emotionally. I’ve learned never to depend on a man for anything. Seeing my mom struggle, because she originally depended on my father for a steady income, taught me I need to be able to support myself. But because of every struggle I have witnessed and been through while growing up in a single-parent home, it taught me to be far from that ‘daddy issues’ stereotype. I’m just giving you a background on what it might be like to grow up without a father. I’m not saying all this for anyone to feel bad for me or pity me. Watching her fight and struggle to maintain a stable household for us taught me a lot. She then proceeded to start her own pool company, and take courses to get certified to do pool repairs to make a stable income for us. I would see her skip dinners so my siblings and I could eat, because we didn’t have enough food to go around for all four of us. And some nights, we didn’t even get that. I watched her work two jobs to keep food on the table.

She didn’t have the time or money to go back to college and get a degree. After he left, she had three kids one only ten years old, and my twin brother and me at the young age of four. The hard truth is, she did need that education, and he didn’t take care of us. She did not finish her college education because my father would always say to her, “You don’t need a job I will take care of us.”

My mother was a stay at home mom before my father leaving.

But I have never found that to be the case. You always hear people say girls that grow up with an absent father are easy, or they have no standards, or that they seek meaningless relationships to fill that void. I am constantly faced with the stereotype of the girl with ‘daddy issues.’ But I’m here to say that stereotype is far from being true. Since then, my mom raised my two siblings and me on her own. At the age of four years old, my father left.